Fathers sometimes seem like Superman. That’s how we saw them as we were growing up, and often it’s how father’s portray themselves. They carry the weight of the world on their shoulders, never show weakness, and never ask for help. Sometimes, they even refuse help when it’s offered to them. This can be a real challenge if your father is aging and truly needs help accomplishing what he used to be able to do on his own. How can you make sure your aging father is safe, happy, and healthy, while respecting his dignity?
If your father is living independently, take the time to make sure his environment is safe and comfortable. For instance, can he walk up and down the stairs without difficulty? Is the refrigerator well stocked? Does the house look clean and sanitary? Issues such as these may be easy to fix without being invasive, and can contribute to your father’s independence. If not, then it may be time to suggest a home healthcare worker to assist with chores and other upkeep.
If your father is in an assisted living facility, nursing home, or other long-term care establishment, give him a visit and make sure that he is comfortable. Not only will he enjoy the company, but you can also make sure that he is being treated well. He may not complain, but there are usually signs that you will see while visiting if the care is subpar. Is the facility clean? Does your father look healthy and well-fed? Is the staff attentive and caring?
Lastly, when you speak with your father, make a note of any changes in his physical health and cognition. Does he seem confused, have trouble following the conversation, or ask the same question multiple times? Unfortunately, the risk of dementia increases drastically with age. If your father is showing signs of dementia, then it is time to bring him to the doctor for an assessment.
We love our fathers. We want to do as much as possible to ensure that our aging fathers remain safe, healthy, and happy. Sometimes that means finding a care home where they will receive the assistance they need. If you’re searching for Assisted Living in San Diego, give us a call at (619) 660-8814. We would be glad to help you through the process for free.
